Sunday, November 22, 2009

how to make good impressions

the way we look matters a lot. and whether we like it or not, we are being remembered either by how we dress or how we talk, or even with whom we go out with. and thus, it is very important to always make a good impression. one that usually lasts or makes anyone remember you.

so the first thing to ask yourself each time you go out for a job interview is what impression are you going to make with that dress you chose to wear? are you gonna be remembered as smart, girly, feminine or creative even? or it's just going to ruin the image you want to project for a good impression.

well, it all depends on how you carry yourself around with the suit or dress of your choice. most people believe that someone is real smart with crisp suits that come with a pair of glasses and black shiny shoes. creative ones are known to have a unique fashion sense and those girly are usually known to be donning girly dresses that flows.

well, it seems to be depending much on your fashion sense. but without your skill in carrying out a good conversation, then you're not making a good impression in there. it helps to look yourselves in the mirror, do some talking like how you usually do in interviews, turn around, or even walk to see how are you doing when it comes to projections. however, make sure that you are having the character of the person you're trying to project in you. or else, everything will turn out to be just a show.

so, remember to always let confidence ooze from within naturally. it gives out the impression that you believe in yourself and you are not afraid to really go out there and interact with other people. Choose clothes that feel comfortable but make you presentable as well. Always maintain a clean or neat look that suggests you are an organized and well-coordinated individual. Small things as such usually make the impression that you are concerned with small details, perfect for a person who orients himself to be sharp at all times and one who doesn't take even small things for granted.

music in my ears

listening to taylor swift songs right now and i can't keep falling in love with her voice. this girl's really got talent she sings so well and even plays the guitar. she's cool and she rocks.

kris lawrence, the one who revived the song "i will take you forever" is doing a great job as well with denise laurel. the song's really good to hear especially if your energy is at a low level during lazy Sunday afternoons.

music is real upper. :)

Saturday, November 21, 2009

headache


i feel kind of ill today. my head aches and i feel nauseated. it must have been the sleepless nights i had the past few days. i guess stress is slowly getting on my nerves.

looking back, i had a very busy week behind me. job interview, subject change, 6-9 p.m. class, workloads. argh. toxic.

sometimes i long for hours of break, or even a month of bumming around, getting sleepovers and stuffing my face with popcorn as i turn into a couch potato for a while. the truth is, i want a year-long vacation.

yeah. that long. i need that long to be able to recharge my batteries. i just wanna finish my associate degree in ID and my MBA. i wanna get over with this post-diploma thingy and just jumped into the bandwagon of career shifting.

wala lang. it's probably PMS (post-menstrual syndrome).

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

how to encourage people to become better the right way

everybody wants to become better. who doesn't right? but the wrong way of doing it can ruin just about every chance you have with somebody you want to get better. so here are some points on how to make it work.

1. don't criticize. you can point out one's weaknesses without criticisms. first, you have to praise somebody's good points, and work your way from there to identify his or her strengths and weaknesses. then suggest how she or he can turn her weaknesses into strengths to allow room for growth, improvement and development.

2. don't compare her or him to anyone out there. everybody is unique. each one has her or his own talent to boast about. so don't even bother comparing him or her to anyone, lest you want to be shut out of her or his life for good.

3. develop her or his potentials. if you have seen something so unique about her or something he is really good at, try egging him on so she or he can fine-tune her or his craft.

4. give your full support. anything you can offer can push someone further on what she or he does. just don't overdo it so she or he won't get misled by false praises.

5. brag about her or his accomplishments to people close to you. this would always make her or him feel good and it gives her or him the confidence to even get better.


so there. just a few of the good points in encouraging someone to become better in anything that she or he does. next time you try encouraging someone, try those tips above and you will never fail.

change

tempora mutantur et nos mutamur in illis. i'd never forget this ever.

it was one line that changed my perspective as a person somehow. In the english language, it means "seasons change and we all change with them."

change. the only constant thing in this world. and what good it does to us?

well, a lot, i guess.

from a timid shy girl who grew up in the province, i became a changed woman. life has been simple and boring for a time, but as soon as i got into college and then stepped out into the real world four years later, a lot of things changed my perspective.

conflict. it was one thing that did it. i was once an idealist, a believer of the "almost impossible" thing that can happen in one's life. meeting her soulmate, or someone she's destined to be with for the rest of her life.

until one day, i saw a lot of things i could not believe they exist. i could not talk about them here, but to give you a glimpse of it, consider a same-sex relationship, casual sex between friends, sex between a straight guy and a gay..name it. and most of them shocked me. i was even a hesitant believer.

when i was 18, i just thought of my future, of better things to come, not knowing that a lot of "different things" happen out there. yeah. i was naive, ignorant even. so unaware that human frailties lead others to be doing things i never thought exist.

when i started working for the Inquirer, my eyes were opened to the ugly truths of life. reality. and it bites.

then, the thing that never crossed my mind happened to my family. just months into my job after graduation, rumors went around that my father was having an affair with another woman. well, i did not believe it. but i saw how it changed my father. it was then i had to shed my ideals, and start believing that there is no such thing as close-to-perfect.

i almost believed my family was one of the close-to-perfect families back in the province. we are not affluent. and we are not even always together. but we are happy, just like many of the close-to-perfect families everywhere else.

but that little change in my father led me to accept reality, though it is ugly. and when i came back to Manila, i became a changed woman, looking through things this time in a different perspective.

that we as people are meant to be here not to enjoy life, but to live it. and life is not as beautiful as we expect it to be. it is a matter of perspective, a matter of seeing things.

at the end of one of my MBA subjects last semester, a brilliant teacher left us the story of an egg, a carrot and coffee.

she went on saying that eggs are delicate but becomes hard after getting soaked in a boiling water. on the other hand, hard carrots become soft after an hour or less of boiling, while coffee just perfectly blends with the boiling water.

she asked us which one we do want to become. do we like to be toughened after a lot of problems just like the hard-boiled egg? do we turn soft after getting battered by the "storm" that comes every now and then, just like the carrots? or do we just ride along with the struggles of life just like the blending of coffee with the hot water?

of course, every one wants to be coffee in this case. and now what am i saying?

well, i have just been through a lot of confusion, both job- and relationship-related. but i emerge stronger and more capable of a quality decision each time i get to face heart-breaking or mind-boggling distractions.

change allows us to make adjustments, to study what has been happening around us, and even allows us room to slip into our best selves and continue living to the fullest. it allows us to step back from it all to see a different yet better perspective. something that suits the situation or something that perfectly fits who we are.

i had become bitter for a time after knowing that my family is going to be listed down as part of the statistics of broken homes. but you know what? a lot of better things came in lieu of that.

my brother is a successful lawyer now; another brother, younger than i am, has just taken the bar exam, too, last September; and my sister who took the licensure exam for pharmacists last year landed the sixth spot and is now working in one of the top companies along Ayala Avenue.

Well, as for me, i have discovered how lucky i am being with the Inquirer recently, and i would soon be an interior designer, too, and hopefully i'd be able to put up a little business of my own after graduating from an MBA program at the UST grad school.

see? change can make us better. and if i had not changed my perspective about my present job now, i might have still been looking out for another job.

but now that i am looking through a different perspective, i would say i'd stick it out with the Inquirer till a better job or a career chance comes along.

so, stay happy and at least like, if you can't love, your job. :)

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

realizations

we tend to realize the value of what we have when they are taken away. and we start to really know what we are missing if there is an element of comparison involved.

i realized that just yesterday.

well, i have been whining quite a lot about the monotony in my job. and as they say, you would never know how lucky you are if you keep on looking out instead of looking in. and indeed, i came upon a great realization yesterday.

i was wishing hard to land another writing job that comes with the same compensation as my salary at the moment. if you feel you have been staying in one company for too long, all you do is look out for another one.

i thought i was right. but i was wrong.

all along, i have not realized how lucky i am getting paid for doing something not quite hard as other workloads in the corporate world.

to give you a better understanding on this, let me just breeze through what happened yesterday.

i applied for a writing position in a startup company located at the Global City in Taguig. The compensation offered for a blogger or content writer is almost the same as my compensation in my present job.

Well, in my excitement, i missed the part where it was written there that the setting would be like a call center, in which writers, the unlucky ones, would be having a graveyard shift while the lucky ones would be writing during the day, like a 9-6 work schedule.

so there. i applied for the position. and a day after submitting my resume, i got a call for an interview right away. it was good news, right? Wrong!

so i went there, too hopeful to even realize the disadvantage of working in a place a bit far from where you live. i slipped into my best suit, hailed a cab and cheerily greeted the people at the reception area upon arriving.

i answered some questions, filled in a bio-data form and waited for about 15 minutes. then i was given 2 writing exams later. well, it was like writing a press release for the netizens. the article must be concise and it should be written in a way that grabs and retains the attention of readers. and it must be informative and must take a conversational form to create more connection between the author and the reader.

there were at least 8 of us who aspired for the position. and they were as impatient as me as we waited for about 25 more minutes after finishing the writing test. after 5 minutes, i was called for the initial interview. the girl who was not even in an office suit did the interview. she must have been the HR head, or someone like that. so since when did people in the HR department start wearing platform sandals, an ordinary blouse and pants in a formal interview?

but what made me raise my brow is the fact that the initial interview was conducted in a room that looked like a storeroom, complete with chairs in disarray and a broom and a dustpan. gosh. what have i done, i asked myself quietly.

and as soon as the interview started, i also started thinking of at least 20 reasons why i should not have been there talking in the first place. well, for one, i hate a graveyard shift. Second, who wants to write at least 10 articles a day? And third, it is a startup company, which means there is no guarantee if it is going to succeed. i have worked with a startup company before. but that was when i was still a newly grad. so, whether it stays or it closes, i wouldn't mind looking for another job.

and when the girl asked me a question that concerns my MBA, like she was trying to see if i'd give up my MBA for a call center job (in case i would need to, or if the job asks for it), i knew right there and then that i was still a lot luckier than the people who have started working for that company.

and you know what? i usually complain about wasted time doing nothing after work, but in there, breaks are even recorded. duh! what an uptight environment. too strict for a very laidback person like me.

so there. i went to class which happened to get dissolved after. i did not feel down, though. 'Cause i've gotten into a great realization yesterday.

now, i know where i belong. perhaps i just need a lot more time to somehow appreciate what i have in the present, and just look forward for the better things to come, like a promotion, right?

so when you feel like changing careers or shifting jobs, make sure it is what you really want. 'Cause regrets in the end don't give you back what you have already lost. Just stay where you are at the moment and look out for chances of career advancement in the same company.

Well, still depends on you, though. just think first before letting go of something you might wanna have back in the end. :)

Monday, November 16, 2009

right choices...how to make one?

Making choices. Easy as it sounds. Doesn’t take a genius to make one. but be sure to make it right, if not all the time, most of the time.

But how do we go about making the right choices? Well, just listen to what God tells you through your heart. Sometimes, it seems easier doing the things our enemies do to us. But don’t bother. Being like them doesn’t solve the problem. You can only watch them do their thing. And the best thing to do is stay put where you are. Never ever cross the line that sets the good apart from the evil.

Don’t let the errors of evil people lead you down the wrong path and make you lose your balance. ‘cause if you let them, it’s as good as retreating from your very first strike. Keep going and know that God’s always behind you. So put a fight for good things. If they strike you down, don’t give in to doing the same thing.

when it seems like you're always making the wrong turn...

Making a mistake does not make you less a person nor make you less than others. it only makes you human and nobody ever has the right to condemn you or subject you to judgment. That is not the work of man but it’s God’s.

we all do make mistakes sometimes. Everybody does. And that is why we are humans and not gods or goddesses. Just make sure to make amends or correct those mistakes. And try not to stumble upon the same mistakes or fall flat on your face on the same spot again.

And when somebody tries to put you down because of those mistakes, don’t let them. it is like letting the devil destroy you without putting up your faith as a defense. So hang in there and carry on. God is with you all the way. Promise.

Friday, October 09, 2009

Marvin: the coolest guy of survivor philippines, Palau

i just finished watching survivor. i got a bit sad when Marvin was voted out. but what really caught my eye is his being so sport when it comes to the game.

he looked sad as he talked in front of the camera, saying goodbye to the tribe. but what touched me most is this:

"i wanted to be at least on the top 6, pero what can we do. ganun talaga e. everything is planned, there are no accidents in life. maybe this is what God has planned.''

Grabe! i was kind of expecting some expletives from him but he turned out to be such a cool guy. now i wonder how many guys out there have the same strong faith as him.

Sana madagdagan pa katulad ni Marvin whose faith remains strong in the face of adversity. that is why he had easily accepted being the 7th survivor voted out of the game.

saludo ako sau, Marvin!

Friday, October 02, 2009

what to do in the face of a supertyphoon

news source: Philippine Daily Inquirer
disclaimer: i am just reposting this story from the Inquirer and all rights belong to the reporter and the company


Pagasa:
Seek refuge
in strongest
building

By Nikko Dizon

LOOK FOR THE STRONGEST building where you can take refuge and stay put while the storm passes.

This advice from Nathaniel Cruz, Philippine Atmospheric, Geophysical and Astronomical Services Administration (Pagasa) deputy director for operations on what to do when Supertyphoon “Pepeng” hits the country.

Packing gusts of 230 kilometers an hour, Pepeng was approaching the northern province of Aurora and its effects could be felt by dawn today. A United Nations’ humanitarian agency said yesterday some 1.8 million people could be exposed to the worst winds from the supertyphoon.

“These gusts are strong enough to destroy houses, rip the roofs off houses,” Cruz said yesterday in a radio interview. “The best thing we can do for the lives of our countrymen is to look for the strongest building where our countrymen can take refuge while the storm is passing.”

His warning came as millions of Filipinos were struggling to recover from Tropical Storm “Ondoy,” which killed at least 293 people as it pounded Manila and surrounding areas with the worst flooding in four decades.

More than three million people were affected by Ondoy, which dumped more than a month’s worth of rains in just nine hours on Saturday.

Stay safe

“All preparations and contingencies should have been in place days ago. Just stay in a safe place [when the supertyphoon hits],” Cruz, told the Inquirer yesterday in a phone interview .

He said a supertyphoon with winds reaching 175 to 200 kilometers per hour, “is very destructive.”

He recalled that in Albay at the height of Supertyphoon “Reming,” winds actually twisted the metal towers of the National Telecommunications Commission (NTC) before dumping them on the ground.

However, Cruz was quick to clarify that a supertyphoon should not be confused with a tornado that could pick up anything in its path.

Pick up roofs, uproot trees

The Pagasa official said the winds of a supertyphoon was strong enough to pick up “lighter objects” such as rooftops. It could also uproot trees, damage rice and corn plantations, destroy electrical power lines and residential buildings.

Gusts of wind could also push vehicles, he said, just like how the strong currents of the floods brought by Storm Ondoy caused vehicles to pile up on top of each other.

“Overall, the damage a supertyphoon could bring to affected areas could be very heavy,” Cruz said.

Pray and hope for the best

Meanwhile, Aurora Gov. Bella Angara, said officials were preparing for the worst and hoping for the best.

“The prediction is that this typhoon is very strong. Our prayers are that no lives will be lost. God answered our prayers [during Storm Ondoy] and we are hopeful we will be spared again,” Angara said on radio.

Aurora is a mainly rural province of mountains and rice plains, with a population of about 187,000 people. Isabela is another fertile farming region but much bigger and has a population of about 1.4 million.

More wind than rain

Cruz said Pepeng would likely not bring the heavy rains of Ondoy that hit the country last weekend, and the worst of it was forecast to strike over 200 km north of Manila.

But it would still still bring rain to Manila, compounding the heavy flooding which has not yet receded in large parts of the capital and its surroundings.

Cruz warned people in Aurora and the neighboring province of Isabela not to be fooled into thinking the typhoon would not wreak havoc, just because the winds had yet to be be felt.

“They might think it isn’t something to worry about but from our radar and satellite image, we can see it is an incredibly strong typhoon,” he said. With a report from AFP

Sunday, September 27, 2009

caught off-guard


as i watched the latest reports on tropical storm Ondoy on TV last Saturday night, my heart wrenched at the harrowing sight of flooded streets, submerged houses and cars, drenched people, hungry and cold. i could not help but feel sorry for the children. the most i could do was pray for them.

most were caught off-guard of the flood brought about by Ondoy. Marikina city and the province of Rizal were among the places hardest-hit by the tropical storm. In fact, two of my officemates live in those places.

My family and I were among the lucky few who live in a 4-floor apartment complex here in Makati, high enough for floodwaters.

last night, i started rummaging through my closet for old, unused clothes to donate to the survivors and victims of the storm. i hope whatever little i can give will help them pull through this disaster.

and i salute those unsang heroes who died of service to their fellowmen like 18-year-old MUELMAR MAGALLANES, who saved at least 30 people, including a mother and her 6-month-old baby; Army Private First Class VENANCIO ANCHETA, who saved 20 people in Laguna; Army Cpl. ADRIANO REGUA; Civilian Armed Forces Geographical Unit militiamen JOEL HERNALIN, ERINEO OLAGUER, FLORENCIO DEQUINO, and PEDRO FALCON in Barangay Nanguma in Mabitac town, Laguna; and two more CAFGU militiamen who were still missing.

May they all rest in peace and God take them all to His kingdom. Let us all pray for all our fellowmen who were victims of tropical storm Ondoy, and do our part in extending help to them no matter how little they are.

Friday, September 18, 2009

i'm outta here

i'm outta here by 2012. and looking ahead into the future, i ask myself what option to take in case my friend and i won't be able to put up the business we want by 2013.

trying my luck in Singapore as an interior designer crosses my mind sometimes. but the question lies in my ability to stay away from my family for long periods of time.

i am on the process of finalizing my first business venture, just a small one, just right for somebody who is starting out. but a lot of other things can happen, though.

last week, i had a hard time deciding on what business to take on. with the help of a tool from a business site online, i was able to pick out 3 of the most viable business plans.

since i am passionate about design, i decided to choose three that are design-related. one is putting up a t-shirt design shop or store; second is a soft-furnishing company that doubles as an interior design firm; and third is a rental apartments or complex with interiors designed by me.

the last one requires at least P2 million in capital. but i opted for a million or even half to have a 10- or 5-door apartment. on the other hand, the t-shirt design shop requires a much lower startup capital. i can always start with P20,000 and tap the Internet for an online shop.

The second one might need about P300 thousand in startup capital. however, going with the second business plan would be a problem, with me still in interior design school. if i am going to push through with it, i have to wait till 2012.

so, last night, i decided to finalize everything, finish with my research and come up with the t-shirt design business plan sooner.

Christmas is just around the corner and it might be a good opportunity to test the market this coming December, not to mention the availability of funds during yearends.

i have initially thought of putting up a laundry shop but i realized it has nothing to do with my passion in design. i have thought of putting up a pharmacy in the province as well, but the required capital is too high for me. having a franchise of the popular rice in a box is more affordable at P300 thousand in startup capital, but this would mean i have to give up my present day job. it was a requirement for a franchisee to work full-time as was written in their site, so i have to cancel this as well. but i would still pursue this plan after resigning from my job in 2012.

so there. final decision is to have a t-shirt design shop and then work my way around it as a first-time entrepreneur.

i know. it won't be easy. but if others can, why can't i?

i know i can do the same :)

Monday, September 14, 2009

bad day

now that Typhoon Nando has left the country, the sun shone brightly this morning. but the first day of the week did not start right for me.

i was hoping to feel some kind of oomph with the good weather. but the day has not yet ended and already, i felt getting back to bed.

that is how i usually deal with a bad day. i sleep on it, so i'd feel different the next day.

but today was different. well, if getting a lil hitch with your mom counts, then i'd say i was dealing with a bad day.

now, i was rambling again, typing away in front of my pc so i can still work well even feeling a bit upset. sometimes i want to believe things always go in pairs.

we have two eyes, two ears, two hands, two legs and so on. and there is also what you call love and hate; joy and anger; happiness and sadness.

i remember feeling all so giddy last night. it had been the second day for my younger brother's bar exams and we were all talking about it.

and since i made a banana toffee ice box cake yesterday morning, i was so excited having a mouthful during dinner. and indeed, the cake tasted so good. and with the good feeling of eating while having a good chat with my family, i had a good night sleep. i felt real joy last night. i was happy.

but today was the opposite. i woke up to a different mood this morning. whenever i have a lil dispute with any of my family members, it leaves me in a bad shape. i could not even work so well knowing somebody was not in good terms with me.

i do wanted to avoid these kinds of disputes, especially petty ones, but i could not ignore it either. i mean, when i know i am right, i fight for it, but it usually causes friction between me and the person involved. now i dunno if i just need to shut my eyes though i find some things are wrong, or i just need to keep quiet, though i know something isn't going right.

sigh. i guess today is really a bad day. but you know what? i refuse to believe. maybe it's just a coincidence.