Second Chances

is love really sweeter the second time around? could be. who knows?

i'm not quite sure. but being friends the second time around could really be sweeter.

you see, i have nothing against exes, ex-bfs to be exact. but some of them might have driven you away, really far away that you have to burn "bridges." know what i mean?

but this one's exceptional. i don't really mind putting the past behind if only to save the friendship, and start a beautiful relationship out of the failed one. maybe we are not meant to be in a romantic relationship and a platonic one is better.

recently, i have rekindled that friendship with fei. yep. the last one i had recently said goodbye to. and it was sweet. i mean, in a friendly way.

don't hate me though. both of us know we have broken up just last year. but heck. before that, we were friends. and it feels good being friends again. it really feels good talking to that friend you used to talk to in the middle of the night back when insomnia abounds. it really feels good talking to a lost friend again.

i know nothing about second chances. but i believe in seizing the moment before it's gone. what i know is letting someone stay if life allows it, and unlatching the door so the person you have shut out of your life could reenter and prove himself once more. and maybe, this time, both of you can make a difference.

draw the line

there's a fine line that separates friendship and romantic relationship.

i bet there is and that is where you draw the line. morality. heard it?

i've seen movies like "friends with benefits," "love and other drugs," "no strings attached." movies that seemed to have redefined the sacred meaning of friendship for some kind of "biological needs."

but then again, for those who are not fans of "casual encounters," i believe that only those who lack the basic standard of morality get involved in these kinds of activities. for having said that, i might have "stepped on hard on someone's foot" right now. and yeah. i know it hurts.

considering that i've had a lot of guy friends back in college, i must have to say that anything that goes beyond friendship (say, getting attracted physically) is friendship no more in its truest sense. it is something else, like an affair.

why am i saying this? i should know, because i have kept all my friendships with men well within the boundary of friendship. "friends." nothing more, nothing less. unless both of you get attracted to each other in the long run, and both of you decided to take a shot and go one step higher: bringing it to the next step called "boyfriend-girlfriend" relationship.

Other than that, it is nothing but a goddamn affair. i could hear a lot flinging expletives at me now. might be a sharp "hypocrite!" and so on and so forth.

but hey. i don't mean to offend anyone. partly, i have been kind of disoriented regarding the proliferation of "casual encounters." and now that the concept has already kept hold of the big screen, and films just keep on showing such kind of relationships, i should well be aware of it. not to be a hypocrite, but to be more of an assertive person guarding her right and dignity.

some people would enjoy "no strings attached" relationships but consequently, they would have done otherwise. in Filipino, "hindi porke't uso, makikiuso ka na rin."

okay. for those who have been in such affairs, forgive me. just airing my view on it. "to each his own."